Lysylife: Feelings that influence

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Feelings that influence

As many of you know I am just returning home from Missouri. It was so liberating to return, I haven't been back since Feb. 08' when I left my exhusband due to many reasons unknown to most people.

As I pulled up to my Missouri home, past feelings of the state of mind I was in when I left flooded my mind. The past two years have been such a growing experience and it feels so liberating to be in the place I am now. It was a type of healing that I didn't realize I needed until I finally went back.

It wasn't hard to pull away for the last time, I was there because I take over the next 6 months to list and sell the property per the divorce decree, the last six months was in the care of my ex husband and I was shocked at how run down and battered the home and property was in. I remember how it used to be though... lots of extended family, a garden of plenty, the beautiful land etc. that now were weeded over, run down, and bitter.

I did run into some old friends, and family...

I have pondered on the response of those who were friendly with hugs and smiles and others who were cold, bitter and full of hurt and blame. How grateful I am for my personal awareness of where I am now and for what reasons I left in the first place...it's interesting to see those who dwell on thoughts of thinking they have the ANSWERS because of what they've heard, and what the eyes witnessed not knowing the full situation.

Sunday I read an interesting quote that can calm the unknown details of any situation, what a great reminder to ALL...

...While one portion of the human race is judging and condemning the other without mercy, the Great Parent of the universe looks upon the whole of the human family with a fatherly care and paternal regard; He views them as His offspring, and without any of those contracted feelings that influence the children of men,....etc.

We sometimes get wrapped up in other peoples stories...
with what I have experienced, I want to be more careful because I know first hand at what looks like all knowing on the outside is not always the case with what is actually the truth.

What I KNOW is that I now love being in this life that FEELS so amazing. My nights of tear filled eyes have been replaced with HAPPINESS and as a blessing I am with someone who I feel cherishes me and my children...

"Good bye" to my Missouri Place ... what a growing journey it has been!!!

5 comments:

Staci said...: Wow thank you Kelli for sharing your journey back to MO. I haven't been back there in almost 6 yrs :S. I guess you can say I know what you are talking about when you feel that you were judged by those back there that didn't know the whole truth of what you were going through. I at first was a lil taken back by the whole situation seeing how the last time I saw you, you were married and happy. But I also do know that no one can ever truely know how you feel and what you are going through in life but YOU! You are amazing and strong for doing what made you feel happy and I admire you so much for that. I may never fully understand but I don't need to...I just see how happy and beautiful you are now and that is all that matters!; July 22, 2009 at 1:31 PM
Anonymous said...: Thanks for the inspirational message. You are amazing and I miss you in AZ!; July 23, 2009 at 5:44 PM
Anonymous said...: We really miss you and your family in AZ. I am glad I got to know you for a short time. I will tell you this...In the that little bit of time you really influenced me. From the calm manner you have with your children...to the happiness that beans from them. And from the many times I was able to hear you give lessons and talk. I think you are an amazing person. I am happy that you are happy. Casey really misses Spencer and I'm glad they were able to go on this trip together!; July 23, 2009 at 6:21 PM
Lorri said...: You are one courageous women. I'm so glad that you have done what makes you happy. I admire and look up to you.; July 27, 2009 at 7:45 PM
Lorri said...: It's interesting in life that when someone says "I love you" and then passes judgement on you, it has you feel unloved. Is it really possible to love someone and judge them? I would imagine that the hardest thing for you is recognizing those who spoke love, but don't show it and the most special thing you have is all those who have you feel loved and don't even have to speak. I am excited for your new life you have co-created. You are a special girl with extraordinary possiblilites and you have a magnificent way in which you help others improve their lives when they get to know you. Love-BTC; July 27, 2009 at 9:47 PM

ACTION...

I want this conversation ahead of me to be relaxed and strong so that the relationship I have becomes relaxed and strong...SLOW DOWN.

Courageously open honesty.

BEING in my truth and owning it

BEING ok with where people are on their path to learning
strong hands and loving hearts

Lift where you stand

Create harmony where chaos might otherwise prevail.

More important than speaking is listening.
-Elder Jeffrey R. Holland

"IT SHALL BE DONE" attitude promotes being committed.

Look Up, think up.

Be receptive to all people who enter your life.

Be Impeccable With YOUR WORD
Don't take ANYTHING personally
Don't make Assumptions
Always DO YOUR BEST
-Don Miquel Ruiz

Have courage to ask questions instead of assuming.
-Ruiz

Help solve the problem rather than avoid or ignore it

Influence more than we are influenced!

Be involved; be informed. Try to be understanding and tolerant and to appreciate diversity. Make meaningful contributions to society through service and involvement.

Do not follow wrong paths or bend to accommodate or accept what is not right...

I will CREATE.

Finding...strength beyond my own.

Focus...on being productive instead of busy.

Learn of me, and listen to my words; walk in the meekness of my Spirit, and you shall have peace in me.
-D&C 19:23
(favorite of mine)

Inspiring Words

A WISE MAN will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understaning shall attain unto wise counsels.
-proverbs 1:5

Owners are people who "OWN" their level of energy, and take complete and total responsibility for it.

To live greatly, we must develop the capacity to face trouble with courage, disappointment with cheerfulness, and triumph with humility.

Our commitment must be total.

When we learn to totally focus on achieving something with a firm commitment, taking away all distractions, we succeed.

The faith and trust of an innocent, committed person can change the realities of this world.

The things that look too difficult for us to master are in reality opportunities for growth.

Happy people are a bigger help to others than worried people.

Only he who does something helps others to live.

Your path is as equal as mine in that there is value in our own paths.

I LOVE PEACE...IT'S BALANCE!

Even a bad man serves as a good example...of what NOT to do.
The best teacher generally strives to point out what the student is doing right at least as frequently as what she or he is doing wrong.

When you discover your own desire, you're not going to wait for other people to find solutions to your problems.

To learn is to change!

The ultimate responsiblity for your getting good instruction lies not with your teacher but with you.

Winning graciously and losing with equal grace are the marks of a master.

Humor not only lightens your load, it also broadens your perspective.

Consistency of practice is the mark of the master.

The stronger you are the more you can give of yourself. The more you give of yourself, the stronger you can be.

Listening carefully to others, you understand them better.

A man never stands taller than when he is upon his knees.

Faith and doubt cannot exist in the same mind at the same time, for one will dispel the other.

you need not sing all the verses of your song at the same time
-Pres. James E. Faust

A mother's heart is a child's schoolroom.

Walked not on the borrowed light of others, but faced the morning unafraid and invincible...

When you eliminate your worry about money, you directly solve all your money problems forever!

Living in the moment is the way to happiness.

What you do may not seem important, but it is very important that you do it.
-Mahatma Gandhi

When your wants are emptied, all great rewards come to you.

Every individual get out of life what he or she is willing to give.

As soon as you do not absolutely need it, you will have it.

When you identify the source of your worry, you uncover the offending addiction.

an active body grows
an active mind evolves
an active life prospers

Every person who comes into your life is potentially an important contact.

Freely ye have received, freely give.
-St. Matthew

The Temple is the catalyst whereby the self is revealed to the self.
-Truman G. Madsen

Humility and meekness are the balm of Gilead. Kindness and empathy are healing ointments. Sincere prayer and meditation sooth the worried soul.

Create-Give-Share-Love

When you transform your whole dream, magic just happens in your life. What you need comes to you easily because spirit moves freely through you.
-Ruiz

If you take action just for the sake of doing it, without expecting a reward, you will find that you enjoy every action you do.
-Ruiz

If we like what we do, if we always do our best, then we are really enjoying life.
-Ruiz

We have to be what we are, so we don't have to present a false image. If you love me the way I am, "Okay, take me." If you don't love me the way I am, "Okay, bye-bye."
-Ruiz

Your love will not change anybody. If others change, it's because they want to change, not because you change them.
-Ruiz

You can be in the middle of hell and still experience inner peace and happiness.
-Ruiz

You are never responsible for the actions of others; you are only responsible for you.
-Ruiz

There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally.
-Ruiz

You don't need to trust others as much as you need to trust yourself to make the right choices.
-Ruiz

If others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds.
-Ruiz

True happiness comes only by making others happy.
-David O. McKay

If I'm created in the IMAGE of my CREATOR then I will create. I will not react. I will create.
-Steve Chandler

Happiness is growth.

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage
-ANAIS NIN

When you learn to face your fear, you will come to respect yourself! (and you will be irresistible)
-Steve Chandler

The joy of motherhood comes in moments.

Remember, every day is a gift and we don’t know how many we get to open.
-Hilary Weeks

Happiness is our heritage.

No one can make you feel inferior without your permission- that's ownership, thats owning your own spirit.
-Steve Chandler

Todays test is tomorrows testimony.
-President Palmer

You control your life by controlling your reactions to life.
So practice!

You can't just think it; you gotta feel it!

Passion is created when you follow your JOY.

I INVITE MY CHILDREN TO MAKE FRIENDS WITH BEING ORDINARY. IT’S A VERY NICE PLACE TO BE. I’M NOT MORE THAN OR LESS THAN- I’M JUST ME. IT’S A WONDERFUL THING TO BE WHAT I AM ANYWAY.
-BYRON KATIE

Enthusiasm for Learning...Make life an adventure. Don't say, "Well here's another day." Say, "Here's a new day. What have I that I can put into it?"
-Marjorie Pay Hinckley

Learn...to conquer fear so you can overcome trials and temptations.

When we comprehend what we are commited to we comprehend ourselves and know how to approach others.

By having a sustained interest in other people, you create a new life for yourself.

Every man I meet is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of Him.
-Emerson

Warning...Watch out for thoughts that appear to justify or explain this unhappiness but in reality cause it.

The way is clear only when the mind is clear.

How do I know I can handle this…because I am!

SMILE

The moment I understood the will of my Heavenly Father, I felt a determination to go at all hazards, believing that He would support me by His almighty power, and endow me with every qualification that I needed;…I felt that the cause of truth, the Gospel of Christ, outweighed every other consideration.
-Heber C. Kimball

There is no peace in the world until you find peace within yourself in this moment
-Byron Katie

Feeling…mah-vel-ous

The universe gives us precisely - and only - what we are vibrating.

A hero...is a human inspiration who comes along and wakes us out of the story of us.

Be the change you wish to see in others.
-Gandi

How you do anything is how you do everything.

The more you give, the more you get back.

Once you realize that the road is the goal and that you are always on the road, not to reach a goal, but to enjoy its beauty and its wisdom, life ceases to be a task and becomes natural and simple, in itself and ecstasy.
-Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj

Train... the body and you simultaneously train the mind.

If people were really connected to who they were, they wouldn’t need anything.

It is easy to live for others; everybody does. I call on you to live for yourself.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson

When you’re really living your life, every delicious moment, you are not thinking in terms of whether it will “turn out”.
Because you are living in the present moment.

Good Time...You must have a good time meeting people if you expect them to have a good time meeting you.

Most folks are as Happy as they make up their minds to be.

If you are the problem, you are the solution!

The first sign that a person is committed is that he asked for help.

Many a false step was made by standing still.

Perfection... is not when there is no more to add, but no more to take away.

Life is the dancer, and you are the dance.
-A new earth

Before...you were the thoughts, emotions, and reactions; now you are the awareness.

When you’re genuinely humble, there’s no way that criticism can hurt you; it can only help you.

Focus…If you focus on solutions, you get solutions. If you communicate with patience, you get patience.

Listening…occurs when you and/or the person have a sense of complete and total understanding without judgment of blame about the content of the conversation.
-Stephen McGhee

“Above all, the most important preparation is of yourself. Prepare so as to have the influence of the Holy Ghost”
-Boyd K. Paker

When we comprehend the character of God, we comprehend ourselves and know how to approach him.

One does not desire the salvation of Christ until he knows why he needs Christ.
-Ezra Taft Benson

My First object is to find out the character of the only wise and true God, and what kind of a being he is…
-Joseph Smith

When we understand the character of God, and know how to come to Him, He begins to unfold the heavens to us, and to tell us all about it. When we are ready to come to Him, He is ready to come to us.
-Joseph Smith

If you are not sure you want to pay the price of exaltation, you do not understand the magnitude of the reward.

Do justly

Walk humbly
Judge righteously
D&C 11:12

Our hardships help us to have more tender hearts.

Addiction…violated your values and ignored responsibilities to pursue an overpowering desire.

When you are in joy with life you cannot vibrate negatively and you cannot attract negatively, only positively.

I ought not to be discouraged but hang on, excercise faith, and keep up good courage and I should come out on the top of the heap at last.

You tell the story that I am this, or I am that, and you fall in love with your story. What do I have to do with it? I am here for your perception, as if I had a choice.

It's not your job to love me__ it's mine.

Mainly, just lighten up. Be natural. Get off your case for not being perfect. Pat yourself on the back for effort. Give yourself credit for wanting to take control of your life.

Favorite Books

These books are not only good in my opinion...but GREAT because they have blessed me to rise to a higher level of performance!

*Book of Mormon
I never stop reading this book, when I complete the last page I start over. I started color coding this book with a stop light color coding system and it speaks volumes to me even more so.
RED- Stop doing
YELLOW- Slow down and listen
GREEN- GO and DO
BLUE- BLESSINGS
~I have found that green is usually followed by blue~
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*Loving What Is
*I Need Your Love: Is that true?
-Byron Katie

Do you want to find complete peace in every circumstance you're in... you'll find it in any of Byron Katie’s books. In my opinion "Loving What Is" is a great start. She is one person I would love to meet, just to be in her presence and feel of her love.

*HANDS-OFF MANAGER
*The Story of You
-Steve Chandler

I love Steve's books because they have given me added courage to look within and rise to a level of "doing" and not just wishing. The Hands-Off Manager book I applied to Parenting and it changed everything as my role of Mother with my children, what a thrill it is to be a STAY AT HOME MOM with this new incite! I truly believe I have the BEST JOB AVAILABLE to women. I had the privilege of going out to lunch with Steve to express my gratitude for his work, it was amazing! Thanks Steve for continuing to share your knowledge with us through great books!